Well, there are a number of possibilities. Perhaps you honestly believe that you're right about an issue and can't accept the truth. It may be that you feel that you would get in trouble or suffer a terrible consequence if you confess. Or maybe it's just that you want to pass the buck.
Regardless of the reason, admitting when you've been wrong or done the wrong thing is critical for the health and future of a relationship - especially in marriage.
Tami and I have gotten into a number of silly debates over the last 30 years. At one point I reached into my pocket and pulled out the change I had (26 cents) and bet her that I was right. From that time on, we've made countless 26-cent bets. Of course, I'm usually the one who collects! (HA!)
The truth is that each of us make mistakes, do hurtful things, and find ourselves on the losing end of the old 26-cent-bet. When we are willing to set our ego aside and admit our faults we open the door for reconciliation and a healthy relationship. But if we refuse to take responsibility or blame someone or something else the relationship is going to be damaged. A continued lack of humility eventually breaks relationships beyond repair.
This Sunday, January 19th, I'll take my turn in our series "God's Master Plan for Marriage" as we talk about being humble. I hope you'll be able to join us.
In the meanwhile, take a cue from the Fonz and practice saying, "I was wrrrnnnn.."